(In honor of Women's History Month)“The true worth of a race must be measured by the character of it’s womanhood.”
–Mary Mcleod Bethune
Recently I spoke at an all women’s college- probably the one that just popped into your mind. About 900 students showed up. They loved me. I loved them. It was a great gig.
Shortly thereafter, I delivered the same program at an all men’s college. Once again, it was a great gig. I loved them and they loved me. This time, however, less than a dozen students showed up! Can you say ugly?
Was it the marketing? Nope. Marketing was the same on both campuses.
Maybe the women wanted to see who this incredibly charming, handsome, and intelligent guy was. Yeah…I wish! (Don’t tell my wife I said that, okay?)
Actually, the women were just more on top of their game. That is a statement that I hear far too often. Nevertheless, many times it’s true.
GOOD women possess certain qualities that can make a man better. And yes, it is equally true that good men possess characteristics that can make a woman better. March, however, is Women’s History month. So, sit back and learn fellas. Watch the ladies shine.
1. Responsibility
Do you I really need to justify this word being on the list?
Sometimes it seems as if the world, especially my world, would have fallen apart many times had it not been for a good woman stepping up and either taking responsibility or helping me to see the importance of responsibility.
Shout out to my mom, Pamela Duncan.
How many times have you been beaten over the head with the word responsibility? Well, I won’t beat you with it. Just keep reading and learn how to beat your challenges with it.
People always say things to me like-
“Okay, Mr. Inspiration. I know I need more discipline, but where do I get it? I know I need to be more responsible. So, how do I develop responsibility?”
Although it may seem as if good women have a ‘responsibility gene’ that many men are missing, this is not the case. What you choose to take responsibility for is related to:
~Your propensity for delayed gratification
~Your beliefs and desires
~The level of your maturity
This is the age of instant gratification. Can you say- microwave? How about- instant messaging? And wouldn’t you love to retire before the age of 40?
Delayed gratification, also known as impulse control, is on the endangered species list. Possessing this master ability implies that you can manage your emotions and remain focused on what has lasting importance. This is where good women excel. The average Joe or Jane is constantly being distracted by something that has fleeting importance.
Being able to distinguish between fleeting and lasting importance is paramount to your success because…
The actions you take are based on what is most important to you at the moment of decision. Stop and think about that.
So, how do you inoculate yourself against the instant gratification virus? It’s much easier said than done, but it begins with correctly identifying as well as understanding your hierarchy of beliefs and desires. I'll show you how in part 2.
