Turning Setbacks into Comebacks

From THE BLACK COLLEGIAN Magazine
"Six Ways to Turn Setbacks into Comebacks"
By Al "The Inspiration" Duncan

The vast majority of smart and successful people have all kinds of insurance to cover them just in case of an emergency. Most people either have or wish they had insurance so that when a loss occurs they will be protected. Even your money in the bank is insured.

But there are situations that have the potential to become disasters for which many people, especially graduating college students, do not have insurance: setbacks and letdowns.

If a person is not prepared to deal with a setback, it can become a permanent disaster.
Although the success that you have experienced will most likely continue, there are six tips I will suggest in this and following postings to make sure that you’re covered when you experience a setback.

1. Identify what is and what isn’t under your control.

I once heard someone say, “All you can do is all you can do. And all you can do is enough. But you better make sure you do all you can do.”

After a setback, many people spend too much time agonizing over things they have little or no control over. So when you are preparing for an interview or another opportunity, take inventory of what is and isn’t directly under your control.

Make a list of everything that has to happen in order for your opportunity to be a successful endeavor. After completing your list, go through it and label each item as “under your control” or “not under your control.” For example, being well prepared for an interview is under your control. Being the most qualified and experienced person for the job isn’t under your control. There’s no way for you to know who else is being interviewed for the position.

WARNING: Be careful of passing the buck or playing the blame game. You’ve got to be honest with yourself about assessment of what is and isn’t your control. If the situation didn’t your way because of circumstances were under your control, it might tempting but it is most certainly not beneficial to beat yourself up. In fact…

"Move from bitter to better"